the revival of solitude.

 

I have taken a self-imposed partial vow of silence.  For the last five days, the longest conversation I have had was thirteen minutes long, and it was over the phone.  The only person I have spoken to face to face for longer than it takes to pay for groceries, was my doctor.

 

Somewhere along the way, I lost my appreciation of people.  It may have been happening for awhile, but I didn’t notice it until last week.  Every request or question, no matter how trivial, awoke in me a level of frustration and annoyance that I have not seen in myself.  I didn’t like that feeling, but it kept happening.  And then I got sick.  I decided to hermit myself away, and not think about work, or things I should be doing.  I slept, read and watched movies.  I ventured out for groceries twice.  I took long baths and listened to music.  I tuned out the rest of the world and spent time with myself.  And I realized that I’m pretty good company.

 

Tomorrow, I return to the world.  And I’m looking forward to it.

i’m taking it back to the old school.

 

Tonight my desire for clean dishes outweighed the attraction of my faithful boyfriend, Couch.  As usual, I grabbed my ipod and put on my headphones so I could listen to something loud and suitably distracting for the task at hand.  Since I seemed particularly inclined towards nostalgia today, I decided to pick something that I hadn’t heard in awhile.  After scrolling part way down my list of albums (which I never look at), I came across something that made me laugh out loud.  I don’t know how it got there, or how long it’s been there, but somewhere in my travels I acquired the award-winning, life-changing album, Dance Mix ’93.  After making a discovering like that, you can’t NOT listen to it.  As the first few beats of ‘Whoomp! (There It Is)’ started playing, visions of my childhood came rushing back – sitting in my mom’s studio with my tape player and my Dance Mix ’93 cassette, listening to the same three songs over and over again.  Then the nostalgia ended, and the dancing began.  It’s really no wonder that there is a man in the apartment building across the alley that watches me all the time.  I can really shake my ass.

 

‘There’s a party over here
A party over there
Wave your hands in the air
Shake the derriere’

 

With lyrics like these, how could you not be moved to express yourself rhythmically?  And they give you the dance instructions right there in the song!  How handy is that?!

 

Even with all the ass-shaking and the hand-waving, I didn’t break any dishes.  I got me some mad skillz, yo.       

grace in small things. 15 of 365.

 

  1. having the time and energy to clean out my closet.
  2. the great feeling you get after a massive clothing purge.
  3. rediscovering a piece of clothing that reminds me of very happy times.
  4. deciding to have a clothing and accessories exchange because I have some fabulous stuff that I no longer have a use for, but that my friends will love.
  5. finally being able to close my closet doors properly.

and this is why i don’t date younger men.

 

During a conversation with an early twenty-something guy last summer:

 

Me –                                                    ‘It’s not like he’s trying to be Che Guevara.”

Twenty-Something Guy –                      ‘What?  Who is that?’

Me (with an incredulous look)          ‘Are you kidding me?’

Twenty-Something Guy –                      ‘I have no idea who that is’

Me –                                                    ‘Seriously?’

Twenty-Something Guy –                      ‘Yeah, no clue.’

Me –                                                    ‘Oh my dear child.  The educational system has failed you.’

 

(a brief pause while I bring up the wiki page on Che Guevara)

 

Twenty-Something Guy –                      ‘Oh THAT guy!  I see him all the time on people’s shirts and stuff.  I always thought that was a picture of Jesus.’

 

 

grace in small things. 14 of 365.

 

  1. knowing myself well enough to be able to tell when I don’t just have a normal flu, and need to go to the doctor.
  2. extended health benefits which covers my expensive prescription for anti-biotics.
  3. having a boss who puts your health, instead of the business, first.
  4. living in a place where the orange juice at the grocery store is both organic and local. 
  5. eucalyptus scented bath salts.